Thinking back over the last 12 months, what did your children struggle with? Did you encounter issues convincing them to take school seriously? Did you experience disciplinary problems at home? How about getting them to be more responsible in their day to day activities?
Regardless of what your issues were, the new year can be used as a starting block for new beginnings. As adults, it has become customary in our society to create a new year resolution based on our evaluation of the areas in our life that need improvement. This is a process that should be done by our children as well.
Therefore, have them write down a list of things they feel need to be improved in their life. Examine the list to make sure it’s in alignment with what you have seen from them in the past 12 months. It’s important they explain to you why each item is on the list and give you a clear explanation of what they’re going to do differently. Make sure all that information is in writing. Every 3 months revisit the list to see how much progress has been made.
Establishing incentives when goals are met represent an effective way to keep them engaged in the process. Just remember, our children should constantly take inventory of the things in their lives that need improvement. Explain to them how becoming complacent can not only have a negative effect on their childhood, but it can also follow them into adulthood.