Understanding that most parents would prefer if their children stood clear of the opposite sex until they were well into adulthood. The harsh reality is, the odds are strongly against that happening.
So, preparing your son for the emotional rollercoaster that comes with dating can prove to be a well-informed decision. We put together three quick tips to help you start the process. Of course, there are no absolutes, but it’s always useful to have food for thought!
1. Focus on Priorities
Young men have a lot to deal with during their transition from adolescence to adulthood. The level of responsibility they are expected to shoulder increases tremendously. School work, extracurricular activities, Duties at home, preparing for college, finding a job, getting their driver’s license, all while attempting to control their hormones.
It’s essential we urge them to understand the value of prioritizing everything you have going on in your life. You don’t want their affinity for the opposite sex to interfere with their progress. It’s our job as parents to ensure our sons comprehend how focusing on their personal goals and aspirations as young men, will ultimately place them in a more advantageous position as an adult.
If he places more effort into the opposite sex then he does his personal endeavors (i.e. school, career path, following his dream etc.) he may find himself playing catch up late in life.
2. Be Honest
Regardless of who you’re communicating with. Honesty is always the best policy. Young men should never feel the need to fabricate stories or mislead a female based on selfish reasons or ill intent. Trust represents a substantial role in attempting to have a successful relationship.
Once a woman deems you untrustworthy based on your inability to tell the truth, gaining that trust back becomes an uphill battle that some men never win. Your son should get in the habit of being upfront about his intentions and allow the woman to choose whether she wants to be involved in that situation. Instruct your son to stand on his truth, whatever that may be.
3. Don’t Rush To Have Sex
Even though this one is last on the list, it may be the most important. As we spoke about earlier, it’s challenging for a young man to control his hormones while attempting to manage his growing list of priorities. Interjecting sex into that equation too soon usually adds more confusion into a young man’s life causing him to lose sight of what’s important.
Taking the necessary time to get to know someone you’re interested in dating is inevitably the most appropriate course of action. Your son needs to grasp the importance of basing compatibly on more than a women’s physical attributes.