Parenting is a difficult job that requires a lot of patience, compassion, and understanding. Unfortunately, children don’t come with instruction manuals so most of us learn these things through trial and error. As we attempt to instill morals and principles into the fabric of our children’s lives it’s important that we create an environment based on respect and structure.
Even though your goal may be to create an atmosphere that’s relaxed and easy going, without structure and respect, things can go left quickly. One of the biggest mistakes we make as parents is allowing our children to operate without stern discipline and guidance. Taking the “friend” approach to parenting may feel like the right thing at the moment, but ultimately, you’re traveling down a slippery slope.
If you become your child’s friend without first establishing the aforementioned principles, an unbalanced relationship will be formed, and your child may consider you more of a peer than an authority figure. Another large part of this equation we must discuss is your personal development as a person. Sometimes when a parent feels as if they didn’t do a good job as a provider, compensating by not creating structure and guidelines are common.
Therefore, taking the necessary time to figure out who you are as a person is vital to your success as a parent. With all the societal disadvantages we deal with as a community, allowing our children to operate with too much freedom can cause a lot of unnecessary problems. So, create boundaries with your children and develop a relationship based around that, you’ll create a much stronger bond.