As parents, it’s our job to provide our children with the structure and resources necessary to thrive in this society. The goal is to prepare them to eventually live their own lives separate from us. The question then becomes, when should that take place? When should a child move out of there parent’s home?
Throughout my time as a parent, I’ve heard several varying opinions about this topic. Some think once a child turns 18-years-old it’s time to go, some people think you should allow your child to stay with you as long as they need to. In my opinion, this should be handled on a case by case basis. Let me explain, as I said earlier, it’s our job as parents to provide our children with the structure and resources needed to thrive but what if you didn’t? What if you didn’t have the means or the know-how to put your children in the best position possible? Should they still go when they turn 18-years-old?
So, it’s important to look at all the nuances of each specific situation. In some cases, if you have a child that’s extremely irresponsible and not taking life seriously enough you may want to put them out just so they can have a taste of reality. Keeping in mind it doesn’t have to be permanent but for some kids, that may be all they need to get their act together. What you don’t want to do is become an enabler. Not addressing behavior that you know will be detrimental to them as adults is wrong and, in my opinion…. bad parenting.
Tough love is sometimes the only way to get through to our children. So, our children need our support and love their entire lives but it’s also our job to prepare them for adulthood. At the end of the day, we should all do what we feel is necessary to accomplish that goal and take into consideration the fact that what works for one parent, may not work for another.